Hi all!
Sitting in your bed at night and reflecting is a great exercise for starters. It is broadening my perspective already! Last few days' events got me thinking a lot about relationships. And last week's events had already gotten me to write. Top it with a great book and you get the right amount of motivation to write your first blogpost. The name is something I liked as is from this very interesting  book. So I am in my heart grateful to the author and I m keeping this till I get something better, but for now this one is really close to heart and well eyes so I say again, m keeping it. Here's sharing my final take on difficult relations.

Expecting anything from anybody is quite really a worthless thing to do.
It first makes you dependent on the other person. Later , it leaves you disappointed either partially or completely. And if you confront the gentle human being! Boy, does it make you feel guilty! That is what actually made me realize how pointless it is to expect any form of courtesy from anyone! Why should anybody be courteous to you anyways! After all everyone has their own upbringing, own life, own concerns, own mindset, own thought process, own business to mind! It could easily skip their mind.
They could possibly miss out on it!
The problem comes when we think they do it deliberately! And they sure do many a times! But still for the times when they are actually courteous to you, is it enough?
In most household relationships, even normal courtesies are not fulfilling. They could be taken the other way depending on how or what your relationship is. Same things spoken by different people mean differently to us.
This makes me feel, it is actually factually and most importantly the belief in the other person's sphere of goodness that can really make us cross the hurdles of a difficult relationship. Belief is perhaps what can get us through most things. We have to believe in goodness to accept it. We have to believe in love to love. We have to BELIEVE in humans to have healthy relations. Without belief in the relationship, no matter how far the other person goes, it falls short.
Every time we find ourselves trapped in shortfall of reciprocative emotions and courtesies, we should perhaps breathe easy on the power of belief and flow with it.

Let's have happy relations brewing along with those cups of teas and coffees. Ciao.